Pastor Funke Felix-Adejumo Advises Married Women on Embracing Intimacy in Their Marriages
Renowned Nigerian female pastor, Funke Felix-Adejumo, has shared candid advice with married women regarding intimacy in their relationships. In a viral video, she addressed a common misconception in African culture that women do not enjoy intimacy and urged wives to embrace and openly appreciate their marital experiences.
Speaking to her congregation, Pastor Funke did not shy away from expressing her personal views. She openly admitted that she enjoys intimacy and emphasized that it was through this natural experience that she was able to have all her children. According to her, many women pretend not to enjoy intimacy due to cultural conditioning, but in reality, they do.
She challenged the long-standing belief in many African societies that a woman who expresses pleasure during intimacy is seen in a negative light. She encouraged married women to let go of such outdated mentalities, as they could unknowingly create problems in their marriages.
“Who told us that women don’t like intimacy? I enjoy it. If I didn’t, how would I have children? Many of you are just pretending you like it! But because of cultural beliefs, you have been conditioned to suppress your desires. You are afraid that if you openly express enjoyment, society will judge you harshly and call you inappropriate names,” she said.
Pastor Funke urged women to change their mindset and embrace the fact that intimacy is a natural and essential part of marriage. She advised wives to be more open and responsive to their husbands during intimate moments, rather than remaining passive.”
Tell yourself, ‘Intimacy is good! I desire my husband!’ And when you are with him, don’t just lie there passively express yourself! Let him know you are enjoying the moment. Make sounds, show excitement! Don’t just stick to the traditional way of doing things,” she advised.
She further encouraged women to engage with their husbands during intimacy, by initiating affectionate touches, playfulness, and overall engagement. In her words:”
Tickle your husband! Touch him while he is making love to you! And when he is done, don’t just roll over appreciate him! Say, ‘Good job!’”
Her bold statements have sparked a widespread discussion online. While some have applauded her for breaking the silence on a topic often considered taboo, others have expressed differing opinions. However, her message emphasizes that intimacy is a fundamental part of marriage, and women should not be afraid to embrace and enjoy it.
